Nicole Tomassini

LMFT 

“My job is to help create lasting change with insight and curiosity.”

Chicago therapist - Nicole Tomassini, LMFT

Nicole Tomassini, LMFT

Discernment Counselor,
Grief Counselor

Areas of Focus

Couples and Families
Nicole has almost two decades of experience working with couples and families with a variety of issues.

Most couple and families don't fully understand their relationship patterns that keep pulling them back into the same interactions or conversations that create stuckness in conflict, resentment and disconnection.

Together, we'll slow those moments down identify the patterns and make sense of what's happening beneath the surface of your dynamics. We'll identify the behaviors, emotions, expectations, and protective behaviors. As those patterns become clearer, I will guide you in changing them.

My role isn't to decide who's right or wrong. I help each partner understand themselves, understand each other, and understand what your relationship needs. We'll identify and work through what's getting in the way of change and build practical ways of interacting that create greater connection, trust, and teamwork.

Grief Counseling
As a Certified Grief Counselor, I work with adults and families whose lives have been changed by the death of a parent, partner, or sibling.

My role is to be present with you in your grief while offering guidance, perspective, and support. There is no pressure to grieve in a certain way.

As you make sense of your grief, I'll help you navigate the challenges of adjusting to a new reality, new roles, new family dynamics, and sometimes a new sense of who you are. My role isn't to help you "move on." It's to help you learn how to live with your loss and integrate it into your life in a meaningful way.

Mid-Life Transitions & Aging
What makes this stage of life unique is that you bring decades of life experience with you. I view and value those experiences as one of your greatest resources. Therapy isn't about starting over—it's about learning from where you've been to develop new insights that help you make informed decisions and meaningful changes in the present and future.

My role is to help you make sense of what you're experiencing, navigate the challenges of this stage of life, and create a future that feels authentic and aligned with who you are today.

Discernment Counseling for Marriages
For those couples whose marriage are on the brink of divorce, Discernment Counseling can be the first step in the process of deciding if you want to repair your marriage. Learn More: Discernment Counseling

QUALIFICATIONS & TRAININGS:
• MA from Northwestern University - The Family Institute
• Trained Discernment Counselor for Marriages from The Doherity Institute
• Certified Grief Counselor
• Gottman Level 1 Training
• EMDR Level 1 Training
• BFA from Center for Creative Studies


ASSOCIATIONS:
• Member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
• Member of the Illinois Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
• Clinical Member of the Menopause Society
• Member of the Association of Death Education and Counseling
• Member of Harvard Business Review Advisory Council
• Supervisor for Provisionally Licensed Therapists

INSURANCES ACCEPTED:‍ ‍
BCBS PPO - BCBS Choice PPO - United Healthcare - Optum - Aetna

OFFICE LOCATION: Lincoln Square, Chicago

TELEHEALTH: Yes

ACCEPTING NEW CLIENTS: Yes, with limited availability